Sweetpea's Ashes

Anita · April 13, 2006, 03:01:32 PM

I'm a little upset about something my husband's friend said to him and now I'm wondering what you all think. He told my husband it was "weird" that I kept my Sweetpea's urn with her ashes in the house. He said "Doesn't everbody bury those outside?" It really made me feel bad. I lost my beloved little girl two years ago and I've always had her urn (shaped like a dog house, very cute) in my living room close to us. Heck, I even keep flowers next to it every day! She'll always be part of my family and I never thought this was weird.

Mike · April 13, 2006, 03:07:23 PM

Maybe for your hubbie's friend it would be normal. For me, the point of cremation would to be able to keep them close to me (especially if you were to move). I plan to have Clifford cremated so that we can sleep the long sleep together.

Kari · April 13, 2006, 05:04:47 PM

I don't think that it is weird...Like Mike said maybe it is for him, but whose to say what is right for you? I think that if you want to have it inside you should!

Barb · April 14, 2006, 08:26:25 AM

Personally, I don't think it is wierd at all. I plan to do the same thing you did - because if I move, I want to easily take the urn with me. We are with YOU !

Rich · April 14, 2006, 12:22:03 PM

Who cares what your husband's friend says? Let him memorialize and remember his losses his way and let you in yours! People just have to meddle. Ignore 'em!

David C. · April 14, 2006, 06:18:32 PM

Everyone grieves and memorializes differently. I took Rudy's ashes and spread them over the backyard that he so loved to frolick in and lie in the sun in. That's what I felt was most appropriate. If my gut told me to keep his ashes in an urn inside, I would have done that.

Anita · April 15, 2006, 11:14:56 AM

Thanks everyone. I don't know why I let this bother me. The person who said it is not very compassionate anyway. I should have just considered the source!

I kept little Pea's ashes in the house for the very reasons you all mentioned, in case we moved and to keep her close to me. I talk to her every day. We sure do miss her. I still have my little Millie and we adopted a rescue from DRNA last August named Maisie. She's such a stinker. But you always miss the ones you lost.

Brekkesmom · April 15, 2006, 09:36:36 PM

I didn't have Fritz-Angel cremated, but he was buried in my parents' rose bed back in 1978. Heidi, Gretl, and Siglen-Angels were all cremated and I have the wooden boxes and tin with me, as will be Brekke's and any future dachsies. I had to give up Sorcha to Robyn and I do not know if she was cremated, because she was her furkid at that point. I think I am absolutely sane and it is important to me to have their ashes close to me, and I want them interred with me when the time comes. Julia

Roberta · April 17, 2006, 07:19:47 PM

We have our three's ashes in the study, as that is one of their favourite spots, so they could keep and eye on us.
So I to think its your hubby's friends that are weird.
roberta

Dackelrich · April 18, 2006, 06:41:31 PM

Your husband's friend obviously knows little or nothing about the death care industry and the different ways in which people and animals are memorialized. My uncle had a customer whose ashes were buried in a tackle box that he recommended, much to the delight of family and friends who felt it was a great tribute and entirely appropriate. Another lady kept her husband's ashes in a mason jar in her pantry, right next to her canned peaches.