Will Never Understand men not in a millon years Venting

papbouv · November 21, 2007, 10:21:01 PM

I guess I'm being a witch but today is my 34th wedding anniversary again got the same thing a necklace and some mums not even good mums. I hate necklaces & mums we never go anywhere to get dressed up go out once a year on my birthday to dinner. I have told him over the years why buy a necklace never go anywhere. I would rather have a single rose or even a carnation than those smelly mums I think I will gather all the necklaces and take them to a pond shop a see what I can get for them, might get a couple of dollars for them better than just sitting around in drawers.To me he is just wasting his monies on stuff I will never wear last year he gave me a little heart with my birthstone on it I wore the necklace 24/7 until today when I got another necklace went in the bedroom and ripped it off threw it in a drawer I will never wear another necklace.
Guess I'm going over board about it should be grateful he got me something but I guess I'm just a witch sorry but I just had to vent.
Papbouv

Roberta · November 22, 2007, 02:43:41 AM

Do what we have always done we get to pick our gift even buy it, BUT it must come home in a bage sealed fromt he shop and the assistant signs over it so you cannot cheat. That way you choose it but no feelie touchie till the day.
Revnege is a course best served cold is a quote form somewhere "resiplocate" give him again what you gave him last year in a colour or what ever he does not really like.
there are many ways to train them.
roberta
ps at least he remembered
pps I am lucky Nicj does send flowers for the most inane reasons, but try taking a box with a dozen roses on a packed commuter train.........................

doxielady5569128 · November 22, 2007, 09:24:09 AM

Sometimes guys just don't get our hints.

Maybe tell him nicely that you don't like necklaces and mums every year. Be really specific and tell him EXACTLY word for word what you would like to do or get next year. Better yet, write it down and tell him. Then maybe the idea will sink in. Tell him you appreciate that he remembered, but you just were hoping for something different for a gift. I found that works best with my husband. Also a few weeks before take him to a store or flower shop and point out the things you want. For example, "oh that's nice. I sure would like that for my anniversary gift." The more obvious you are about it, the more he'll get it.

Believe me you are lucky her remembers your anniversary at all or how long you have been married.

My hubby, bless his heart, keeps telling people we have been married for four years and thinks our anniversary is May 5th.

We have been married two years, not four and our anniversary is May 7th. Which he should remember because we got married the day before his dad's birthday.

Don't let it ruin your day. Focus on the fact that you are celebrating your marriage and life together. You should be proud you have been with him for 34 years, many people give up on their marriages long before that. Celebrate your marriage and don't focus on the fact that you got gifts you don't like. You'll feel lots better about it if you ust change the way you are thinking about it. :thumb:

papbouv · November 22, 2007, 12:22:00 PM

Thanks for letting me vent and for the nice suggestions.
Papbouv
Know why dogs are better than men.

Barb · November 23, 2007, 07:59:49 AM

Quote from: papbouv on November 22, 2007, 12:22:00 PM
Thanks for letting me vent and for the nice suggestions.
Papbouv
Know why dogs are better than men.

LOL - I concur !!!! Some of them (most of them !) just never get it !!!!

Leslie · November 23, 2007, 10:31:16 AM

Boyz r stoopid

Mike · November 23, 2007, 03:08:47 PM

Ahem.......

I'll bet Liberace would have done everything you wanted him to. Of course there would have been a down side to that as well.

Barb · November 24, 2007, 06:55:17 AM

Quote from: Mike on November 23, 2007, 03:08:47 PM
Ahem.......

I'll bet Liberace would have done everything you wanted him to. Of course there would have been a down side to that as well.

LOL - we are just never happy, are we Mike ?!?!?!?!? HAHAHAHA !!!

This doesn't apply to you.....you are such an attentive dad to Clifford - I bet bet you DO listen !!!!!

Rich · November 24, 2007, 08:54:05 AM

Quote from: Mike on November 23, 2007, 03:08:47 PM
Ahem.......

I'll bet Liberace would have done everything you wanted him to. Of course there would have been a down side to that as well.

Hilarious!!

PattyInAK · November 27, 2007, 02:28:10 PM

You gotta tell them exactly what you want. I tell Dan brand names, etc., and no substituting. Dan knows I don't need girlie things, although he is great at picking out jewelry for me. He's gotten me some great stuff over the years, like a pressure washer. Don't laugh, I wanted a pressure washer so I could keep my Mustang nice and clean. I wore it out, so I asked him for a GOOD pressure washer for Christmas, not only for the car but for the vinyl siding on our house and our windows. Dan knows how to research and find the best one, so.................I think what I enjoy most for anniversaries is a nice dinner out and a good bottle of champagne.

I have a co-worker who threatens her husband.........."you BETTER do something and get me this and that" and on Mothers Day....."you BETTER get me something from my baby daughter". GAWD, why bother???? If you have to threaten them into doing something nice for you it kinda loses its meaning. You gotta take control and say "this is what we are going to do." Plan something extravagant.