Randy's mom has been in hospice care since mid-December for end-stage lung disease. At the time she entered hospice, we were told anywhere from 1-3 months by her primary doctor and maybe even 6 months from the pulmonologists (who rarely sees her). Even though we all want to believe the pulmonologist, it is looking as if her primary doctor knows her best and she may only have a couple of weeks left. She picked up a slight lung infection last week, and it has really taken a toll. Today, when I saw her, I think I really knew she wasn't just sick, but was dying. It's that time when what you've been told and what you finally know come together. Please send prayers and rays to the family as we go through these last precious days with her. Meg is home this weekend, and unless something changes, this will be the last time she will have any meaningful conversation with her grandmother. That's tough after having seen her at Christmas when she looked so good. Randy's parents have been married for 60 years and have maybe been apart a total of two or three weeks during that time. His dad is really not sure what he will do once she is gone. I honestly don't expect him to last very long without her.
I'll keep you updated over the next few weeks. We are hoping to take Schatzi for one last visit since she always brings a huge smile to Joyce's face.
keeeping you all in our thoughts and prayers.
Roberta and Nick
My prayers are being petitioned for your family. It's never an easy road when a loved one is in their final days. I'm sorry.
My thoughts are with you and your family. :comfort:
Will keep the family in my prayers and thoughts. Please do keep us posted. :pray:
Sending HHHH's & PPPP's to the whole family to help you all through this trying time.
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Merion & the ZZ's
Our prayers for all of you at this sad and difficult time. We know how tough it is and will hold you in our thoughts.
You and your family are in my prayers Teresa. Keep us posted.
Rays on the way from Illinois. :comfort:
After a really tough week (it's hard to believe it was only a week) Randy's mom passed away on Friday morning. In the end, she went very peacefully. We have a wonderful hospice house here in Greenville, and were able to convince Randy's dad that it was where she needed to be during her last days. He knew we couldn't take care of her at home and we moved her there on Wednesday. She actually was lucid enough to know where she was going then and agreed (and she had always told us she never wanted to go there which was part of her husband's struggle with the decision). It was a wonderful place and they took such great care of her and of us. Because of her lack of oxygen, her CO2 levels were quite high causing a lot of moments of confusion and memory loss those last few days. We are now trying to forget those days of her life and just remember all the good times we had. Please remember Randy's dad as he starts adjusting to this new normal. He is broken-hearted, but knows that she is no longer suffering.
Our deepest sympathy and prayers for all of you at this sad time. It must be a great comfort for Randy and his Dad to have you too, bless you, it is good to hear thevhospice made things a little gentler for you. You are in our prayers.
So so hard.... :comfort: I am glad she went peacefully - later on you will remember this and rejoice. Sending lots of prayers and good thoughts for your family. I am glad you have each other....
Oh Teresa I am so sorry I am keeping your whole family in my prayers. :pray:
Dear Teresa we hope that you and your family are coping after the sad loss of Randy's mum. She'll always be there in your hearts and in the fond memories that you'll share with his dad too. We're thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Teresa, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you are all doing OK, especially your FIL.
Sorry to hear about your loss. Hospice was wonderful for my mom when she was dying from cancer last May. Of course she was there for only 36 hours. My four sisters and I were worried about my dad, but he has done really well adjusting to his new "normal." We sisters took turns visiting dad throughout the winter. Big sacrifice going to Arizona from Alaska in the middle of the winter. JUST KIDDING!!! Dad is doing well and we are thankful. Time will ease the shock and pain. Prayers for peace coming your way. :heart:
Thank you, Patty. Randy's dad is doing pretty well. He goes to the cemetery every day to "talk" to Joyce. I think it really helps him work through this time of grieving. Randy jokingly tells him as long as his mom doesn't talk back, it's fine for him to talk to her. His dad had carpal tunnel surgery done on his hand in March and then a few weeks ago had a cornea transplant. These were things that needed to be done but were too hard for him to do while caring for his wife. The cornea transplant has been tough. They only transplant one layer of the cornea, which is much easier and has less risks of infection or rejection. At first the transplant did not want to attach, but as of last week was starting to and he can already see better than before. There was still some swelling and as long as the drops they gave him will make it go down, he will be fine. If not, they will redo the transplant. He is looking forward to being able to get out in his woodshop and work again. We hope to get him involved in the Senior Action Center or something here. He is feeling quite useless right now.
I'll be thinking of you, Patty, as Mother's Day approaches next weekend.
I am so sorry for your loss, and hope you can always remember the good times! {{{Hugs}}} :pray: