......a relative of yours sent you the link to their Christmas wish list gift registry??? And they asked you to please let them know what you bought for them so they could cross it off the list?
Personally, I would ignore the list especially when they ask that you tell them what you bought so they could cross it off! With the kids, we have always asked them to do a wish list so we would have ideas on what they really wanted and then would go from there as to what we would get them. I can understand getting a wish list of ideas but I have a problem with them telling you to let you know what you bought them off the list so they can mark if off?????? Now, that does take guts to do what they did! Bottom line...........I'd ignore it and probably do something just the opposite of what they had on the list.....like a piece of coal!!
Thank you! We were appalled that they would do this. These are two adults with one child. The same people who gave us heck one year because "every year you send us a gift box from Alaska Wild Berry Products, it so impersonal." And you know what they sent us that year? A gift box from The Swiss Colony, which we actually loved. I will take a food gift any day! I have had it with these people. We did NOT honor the gift registry. I sent the child a nice gift and that was it. Get real!
Quote from: PattyInAK on December 04, 2010, 11:00:26 AM
......a relative of yours sent you the link to their Christmas wish list gift registry??? And they asked you to please let them know what you bought for them so they could cross it off the list?
I'd respond "say what????" But that's me... :scratch:
Very forward of them but nowdays manners seem to be going out th door I would ignore the adults, get the child something that would be it.
Actually I would say this:
Dear John and Jane:
I received your request for gifts and am taking this opportunity to give you something you don't have listed - a lesson in good manners.
Good manners is than politeness. It is more than just saying "please" and "thank you" and holding open the door for a lady.
Good manners is being friendly and respectful to everyone with whom you come in contact. Good manners is saying thank you, even if the gift you were just given is four sizes too big. Good manners is holding open the door for another person - regardless of their age or gender - and putting your own needs behind theirs. Good manners is being profoundly grateful IF your family says to you, "We all want to get you something you really want or need, so please let us know what your preferences are."
Bad manners is assuming that you can send out a gift registry with a request that you be advised which gifts you can cross off once they are purchased. Bad manners is showing a sense of entitlement and an expectation that you deserve any voice in what friends and relatives choose to purchase as a gift for you.
I hope that in the years to come you will make use of this gift from me. It will always fit, it is always timely and it will always be appreciated by those people who see you using it.
Have a very happy and meaningful Chrstmas - Aunt Patty
Atta GRRRRL, ImaDorable. These people. What gall!
What ball? Where's the ball???
Um, Bonnie, I said GALL not BALL.
Oh. (best Emily Latella voice) Nevermind.
Quote from: Ima DoraBelle on December 04, 2010, 05:37:31 PM
Actually I would say this:
Dear John and Jane:
I received your request for gifts and am taking this opportunity to give you something you don't have listed - a lesson in good manners.
Good manners is than politeness. It is more than just saying "please" and "thank you" and holding open the door for a lady.
Good manners is being friendly and respectful to everyone with whom you come in contact. Good manners is saying thank you, even if the gift you were just given is four sizes too big. Good manners is holding open the door for another person - regardless of their age or gender - and putting your own needs behind theirs. Good manners is being profoundly grateful IF your family says to you, "We all want to get you something you really want or need, so please let us know what your preferences are."
Bad manners is assuming that you can send out a gift registry with a request that you be advised which gifts you can cross off once they are purchased. Bad manners is showing a sense of entitlement and an expectation that you deserve any voice in what friends and relatives choose to purchase as a gift for you.
I hope that in the years to come you will make use of this gift from me. It will always fits, it is always timely and it will always be appreciated by those people who see you using it.
Have a very happy and meaningful Chrstmas - Aunt Patty
Way cool!
OMG - that is pitiful. How close is this relative? I believe in being organized...but that is so not the right thing to do.....
Quote from: Barb on December 05, 2010, 12:45:15 PM
OMG - that is pitiful. How close is this relative? I believe in being organized...but that is so not the right thing to do.....
Its one of Dan's sons, my stepson......grrrrr. We've had issues in the past.
The other son, however, is a doll, and he IS getting a special gift this year.
My 4-pack says, "Attagirl, Auntie Karen!" We think that shows an extreme amount of gall. A Christmas gift list is just that - what you'd like to have. I remember years ago, making one for my grandmother, and I got absolutely nothing that was on it. However, I did get a red corduroy jumper and a green pinwale corduroy jumper, and they were made by her - much more useful and meaningful than anything I am sure was on my list!
I loved Ima Dora Belle's answer great way to try to let some one know how you feel about rudness but bet it would go right over their heads well it might stick you just never know now days.
I should send them all these responses. :apls:
we say this tongue in cheek "only in America".
I like Auntie Karens solution, says it all, but as they say you have one in every family........................
Roberta
Patty that reminds me of sally's list to Santa from A Charllie Brown Christmas where she sends him a list with the exact item, size and color she wants and if he doesn't have it to send cash. It's been a couple of rough years for me money wise, but everyone understood, but now that I have a little extra cash I'm buying a few things for the under 10 years old set(2 5 year olds and 1 4 year old), but they'll have to make do with Dollar store gifts. I buy what I can afford and even if I can afford something I won''t buy it if it is demanded. My cousin's daughter, now 21 asked me outright for a 5 speed bike when she was 6 years old. My response was that that gift was a Santa or a mom/dad gift only.
I'm speechless. :confused: Someone needs a good thump alongside the head.
My step mothers granddaughter once asked her when she was going to die so they could get all of he money. She was too young to have come up with that on her own. :dontknow:
Quote from: Dee Dee and Hallie on December 10, 2010, 02:06:41 PM
I'm speechless. :confused: Someone needs a good thump alongside the head.
My step mothers granddaughter once asked her when she was going to die so they could get all of he money. She was too young to have come up with that on her own. :dontknow:
:dontknow:shaking my head :dontknow:
I must admit I would really be torn on how to respond! For sure I would NOT do what they request! Can't decide if I want respond in a really nasty way or not.
1) notify them that you are making a donation in THIER HONOR for some cause they absolutely HATE!!(in the hopes it begets them many many begging fund raising letters and phone calls.
2)Think of a gift no one with ANY taste whatsoever would even want to look at, and send them that!! It might at least give them the idea they should NOT beg for anything in the future because they fear your taste may get even worse!!
3) Send them YOUR gift order, being sure everything on YOUR list, is somehow a little out of their price range...you know, a vacation to the Bahamas for your whole family, a BMW auto, etc.
4) or the nastiest I can think of, find some company you can mail order lutefisk and limburger cheese from and send that to them!!
5) Depending on what was on the list, return the message to them indicating that apparently their child sent you a request for presents and you are sure they would not have permitted the child to be that illmannered if they knew it!
6) or show you are a bigger person than they are buy NOT getting anything on their list, BUT instead make a donation to a cause that is important to them...(or the heck with being the bigger person and make a donation to a dachshund rescue...because there will always be a need there!! and in my mind that action would be a WIN WIN situation...satisfying your values and helping doxies!!
I am guessing probably the nastier ideas might result in you being removed from their giving presents list, but do you really want to stay on it?
Auntydoxzz