I miss you guys
http://www.apacherunner.com/dedication.wmv
I am in tears! That is a wonderful picture show. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you - you are definitely in our thoughts.
There's still time for a happy ending for you. Koby and Tiff have not been shipped off to a permanent home yet.
I'll repeat what I posted earlier: Someone you love shouldn't make you give up something you love.
It's clear to me that you love these puppers. I can't even fathom what you must be going through.
I've been in your shoes. I was single with two dachshunds and a girlfriend who thought they were terbbily trained. I had an opposite plan from yours, though: I sent the girl packing and kept the puppers. It wasn't long before I met someone else. Now I'm married with a beautiful daughter. Not only did she accept my puppers, but she had one of her own...making for a four-legged Brady Bunch if you will. Her pupper died in December 2001 and one of my puppers went to the Bridge back in June, but Max is still plugging away as he closes in on his 17th birthday.
Jarrett.
Please read what David said, and then read it again, and again. How any human being with an ounce of compassion in their heart could see your tribute and separate you from Koby and Tiff..... well, it is beyond my comprehension. It is so very obvious that you love them and they love you.
I don't even know you and my heart just ached for you when I watched the video.
"Someone you love shouldn't make you give up something you love." If there were ever truer words written about your situation I don't know what they could possibly be. I cannot imagine trying to begin a life with someone that demanded such a sacrifice from me. It would stand between us forever - consider that.
Jarrett, there are so many things I want to say...but I'll just condense it down to I think you have just made the biggest mistake of your life. The slide show was very moving, it breaks my heart to think of those two, even though in the best of hands now, they are missing you and the life they have always known. They of course can not go back into the same situation with you, but it is just so plain to many of us out here that you chose the wrong ones to get rid of....my heart does go out to you and even more so to K and T. They gave only unconditional love. We can learn so much from our dogs. Read what everyone has been telling you and make sure that in your heart of hearts, this is what you need to do. David C made the right decision...
I am like the others, you've let the wrong one's go. Some day in the future you will be asked to let go of something else, then something else etc I've seen this in other friends, then your other "LOVE" may find you are not good enough and go, leaving you where!! People who are self centred stay that way.
My dear Nick does not come on the board much, but knows all the people and whats going on, when I was watching your slide show, I had told him about the two of them, and the two wee darlings were thwm, he said you needed your head read to allow someone else to make you get rid of the two loves of your life.
So have a good hard look at your life, and what YOU might want it to be.
Roberta and Nick
Jarrett
A little more than 4 years ago, I was in exactly the same situation as you are now. I had a boyfriend that started with subtle sayings like "I'll get you to wear shorts instead of jeans". Four weeks into our relationship he said to me "when we get serious, the dogs are out of the bedroom". I kicked his butt out of the door so fast and I've NEVER EVER regretted it for one second. Good riddance! It was difficult at the time, but had I held on to him, he would have destroyed me in the end. I don't want you to realise when you're 60 years old, that you've been robbed cruelly of your life and the things you love. What will be your next sacrifice? There IS a stunning girl out there that will love you and your doglets for WHO YOU ARE. You are clearly settling for second best while the best is awaiting you just around the corner! Being married to the wrong one is utter hell. Don't go there, please!!! I'm 39, divorced and single now for nearly 6 years - but I'd rather wait for the right one than settling for the one that's available :thumb:
Oh yes, I forgot to mention - He, the boyfriend, was sitting on the couch - Tommie got up too, lifted his leg and pp all over this pants :headbang: That was a sign too...
Dang - I couldn't even watch the whole thing....I will have to wait until I get home - tears are rolling down my face.....
The other have said what we all feel. It is clear these babies are your heart and MY heart goes out to you. Please take some time and think about what is right for YOU.
Very nice show. You must have been snapping pictures like crazy to get all those in the hour each day they were out of the cages.
I started to comment on the situation, but realized it's none of my business. I have only one question, is your girlfriend willing to give up the pug for you? The fact that the pug is housetrained is not relevent. Would she give up something she loved for you.....
Dear Jarrett,
No second guessing here! It's painful; but, life is painful. Learn from it. Take it to heart. Get your act together FIRST. Do not endanger these sweet babies by re-considering your decision. Let them go for now; for their sake. They are adapting and learning to love their new foster family. Please leave them to a new destiny. It is the RIGHT thing to do!!!
Dear folks,
I may be the devil's advocate here...
Yes, it is painful for Jarrett to let his furkids go. Jarrett needs to get his life straightened out (remember this has been building for a long time) and figure out what his priorities are. But; irregardless of the path that Jarrett is taking long-term, he has made the RIGHT decision for these puppers, at this time.
I am certain of this based on one thing. These dogs were posted on another site as "For sale" for $200! Yep, she was going to sell them. Irregardless of Jarrett's feelings, the puppers need to stay out of this environment and away from the danger of this unbalanced situation.
When Jarrett has his life in order, he can again have a fur-family if he chooses. But, not in the near term! Too many risks!
just my thoughts,
Dianne
I agree with what everyone has posted. It is obvious that you love K and T and you knew you were loved by them. I do think that they didn't like your partner or her dog and that was a sign. I had a dachsie who hated every male friend who came home with me, even when they were just friends! That is until David. She looked at him and walked up to him them climbed in his lap. That was all she wrote. He loved her and me in addition to the dogs he had. I'm married to him now and have another dachsie and a 14 month old daughter with him. I've told him numerous times that if Sybill-angel hadn't approved he wouldn't have made it as far as he did. He knows it and wouldn't expect anything less. She knew he was kind and compassionate and that was what she wanted.
Having said that. I don't think you should try to get K and T back as long as you are in the same position you currently find yourself. It isn't fair to them. If you want to take them back home, I would make sure the resentment and jealousy were gone. I don't think it is possible for E to let go of it, based on everything she (and you) have posted. The dogs don't need her in their life because she is toxic to them.
I agree completely with Diane. It is difficult to see your tribute Jarrett and not be moved but you did indeed make the decision to give up the dogs and now it is probably time for you to move on.
I'm sure that Julie and Eric will keep everyone up to speed on the progress of Koby and Tiff. Right now you need to focus on life without them. Believe me Jarrett, I do hope that everything works out for you but your a grown man and you will make your own way. The important thing here is that the dogs are being cared for and loved and they are happy and healthy and adjusting well.
I couldn't watch the entire tribute while here at work, I need to stayed composed. I cannot imagine giving those two up. I hope your girlfriend is pleased with herself. I think you made a big mistake, you should have kicked her out. Someone who loves you would NEVER suggest or force you to give up something you love. The only good part of this whole thing is that Koby and Tiff are in the good, caring, loving hands of one of our Wiener Writings members who will make sure these two doxies will have the best treatment from now on.
"Oh yes, I forgot to mention - He, the boyfriend, was sitting on the couch - Tommie got up too, lifted his leg and pp all over this pants That was a sign too..."
Lauri, I think you read it right. Tommie sounds like a very good judge of character. When I was in my 20s I had a bull terrier who was very much like that. She was a very good judge of character. Mostly, when my sister and I brought guys home she was indifferent toward them, or friendly in a polite, reserved sort of way. In the case of the former, these were men who often did not make a second appearance at our home. Some men faired better, as in the second case. As luck would have it, these were the men who we would date for a few weeks or months, nice enough but the relationship just didn't go anywhere. In this case I think Gretchen thought, you're nice enough, but I better not let myself get attached to you.
There was one man my sister dated that Gretchen HATED! We had to close off Gretchen in another part of the house when he was over. Turns out that he had a fiance that my sister did not know about. He was cheating on her with my sister, but my poor sister had no idea the other woman existed. About that time I noticed that Gretchen was always right and began to notice how she treated dates. When my sister began dating the man who is now her husband, Gretchen liked and accepted him. This doesn't begin to compare with the day she met Kevin.
Kevin came into the family room to meet my parents, and we all sat down to have a chat. Gretchen tried to climb into Kevin's lap, but settled for standing on her back legs with front paws on his lap, panting in his face and trying to kiss him. Eventually she settled into a post next to his chair and sat there quietly as long as he had one hand petting her back. Gretchen seemed to be saying "he's MINE! Can I keep him?" Turns out she was absolutely right, and I decided after a few dates that Kevin is a keeper.
Gretchen and Kevin then shared an intense love for one another for several years until she passed on. One morning after we married, Gretchen had a bad stroke. Mom woke up to find Gretchen could not walk properly and her neck could not straighten, forcing her head against her shoulder. Mom called me at work to say she needed to take Gretchen to the vet for the last time, but she didn't want to do it alone and Dad was at work. Kevin was not working that day, and he helped Mom take our sweet bull terrier to the vet, he sat with Gretchen on the long car ride and at the vet until the very end, and was a great comfort to Mom and Gretchen.
Gretchen's love and trust was well placed in Kevin, who was there for her right up to the end.
My first doxie, Christopher, was a good judge of character and he had high standards. Christopher disapproved of one guy so strongly that he pooped in the guy's shoe right in front of us! My second doxie, Hasen, loved everyone it seemed. But my third doxie, Harry, wasn't so easy. However, he loved my husband Dan from the first time they met.
My current three -- Willy, Alex and Misty -- see something very special and noble in my father-in-law. Normally, they bark at everyone, whether they are saying hello or issuing a warning. But when my father-in-law would show up from California for his annual visit, those dogs were all wags, and absolutely no barking. It was the wierdest thing. It happened year after year. Unfortunately my FIL can no longer visit us. He is in a nursing home and on 24-hour oxygen.
Jarrett, I cried watching the slide show. As others have said here, someone who truly loved you would never ask you to give up something you love. I think giving them up right now was a good choice, but I'd strongly re-consider the girlfriend. Take some time to find yourself and someone who will love you the right way! Good luck, you are in my prayers! Dottie
It is so obvious how much you love Koby and Tiff. I still cannot believe that you have allowed this woman to wreck your life. Just the fact that she was willing to have the dogs that you have loved for 6 years put down and you still want to be with her is so totally beyond rational thought to me. I speak from personal experience that this is just the beginning. This woman will never be happy with anything, you will never measure up and you are destined to be miserable with her. Please think long and hard about this. If she truly loved you, she would never ask you to give up your dogs. If you asked her to give up her Murphy for you, do you think she would? Somehow, I sincerely doubt it. I am just so glad that Julie and Eric were able to take Koby and Tiff in when you made possibly the biggest mistake of your life. It really is none of my business what you do and the choices you make, but it sickens me that those two adorable dogs have to suffer because of your choices. I know you are suffering too, but your suffering is due to letting this woman manipulate and control you. You have my sympathy and I wish to he** that someone would have made me understand what I was getting into by marrying a control freak. Luckily, I didn't have to make a decision like you have made. When I left my ex, I took my dog, Max. He was the only one I had at the time and he was just a pup, but there was no way I was going to leave without him. Please, Jarrett, listen and take to heart all of the things everyone has posted. We care about you and those puppers. We want you to be happy and I honestly don't think that being with Emily is going to do that. Her love has conditions; I am sure that Koby's and Tiff's did not. There is no way that I would ever have a relationship with someone that did not accept my dogs. I am a true believer of the old saying, "love me, love my dogs". We are a package deal and if someone cannot grasp that, then they are not the person for me. I would rather be alone with my dogs than with someone that made me choose him over them.
Well now, I'm just bawling here. The last part of your LOVELY tribute says it all. "I LOVE YOU." but you see, it wasn't WE love you. You made a choice. I hope everything works out for you. Thank you for your unselfish sacrifice to let two loving babies go to a home where they are loved by ALL. I wish you well.
Jarrett,
I still think you should run not walk out of this relationship and get your life back. I think you should rethink the woman in your life and ask your self is she worth it? I can tell you what I would say. When my husband gives me a hard time about rescue I tell him there's the door and mean it. I have supported everything for him and the kids for over 25 years and now it's my turn. He dont have to help but he can't stand in my way. I would not let someone have that much control over my life ever again.
P.S. Meet my daughter Jessicca, college student and mom to two doxies. No they are not perfectly housetrained but she loves them anyway. Of course I think she's beautiful but she's not perfect or a size 2.