What do you do about a co-worker who has tried every get-rich-quick scheme out there and you can't talk to her without her pushing her latest on you??? And this is someone in a supervisory position!!! Although, she is respected by very few, above or beneath her.
the broken record: Thank you for thinking of me but I am not interested. Good luck with that, though.
be prepared for the argument -- cuz these folks ARE relentless and they take it PERSONALLY --and repeat after me: Thank you for thinking of me but I am not interested. Good luck with that, though.
and THEN my personal favorite for when I'm done talking about it, and said everything I'm gonna or it's downright inappropriate at work: This conversation is over.
Case in point: one of the guys in the plant stated that a female in the office had gained a little weight and made a reference to my body size (which is petite and slim and I hope that men might sometimes notice). I stated, "Well, this conversation is over." BECAUSE yer not allowed to notice anything below the chin on anyone ya work with. can't even say "Nice blouse." Ever. Unless they are on fire. And he knew EXACTLY what I was sayin' and he stopped.
Ask them "how come you are still working here, if its so good"
Roberta
Quote from: Roberta on January 02, 2008, 08:49:55 PM
Ask them "how come you are still working here, if its so good"
Roberta
Roberta, you kill me! Good question!
Quote from: Leslie on January 02, 2008, 03:26:14 PM
the broken record: Thank you for thinking of me but I am not interested. Good luck with that, though.
be prepared for the argument -- cuz these folks ARE relentless and they take it PERSONALLY --and repeat after me: Thank you for thinking of me but I am not interested. Good luck with that, though.
and THEN my personal favorite for when I'm done talking about it, and said everything I'm gonna or it's downright inappropriate at work: This conversation is over.
Case in point: one of the guys in the plant stated that a female in the office had gained a little weight and made a reference to my body size (which is petite and slim and I hope that men might sometimes notice). I stated, "Well, this conversation is over." BECAUSE yer not allowed to notice anything below the chin on anyone ya work with. can't even say "Nice blouse." Ever. Unless they are on fire. And he knew EXACTLY what I was sayin' and he stopped.
I don't have a problem with saying I'm not interested. This person is selling vitamins, and the last thing I am going to do is spend $100 each for Dan and I to have vitamins for one month. Dan and I have custom-tailored our vitamins per our doctors' instructions, and that is what I will tell her if she has the nerve to push.
I have a co-worker (in a seven person office) who is into this vitamin juice thing and he has been trying and trying to get me to watch some DVD on the "miracles" of this stuff and how, of course, I can make a fortune because this area is "wide open". I keep trying to be nice and telling him that we are very busy and that if things ever slow down I would look at the DVD. I think I'm going to follow Leslie's advice and say "We are not interested" next time. It's difficult to be somewhat confrontational with a co-worker but honestly, I don't think he is realizing that the reason I haven't got into it is because I am NOT interested.
I do wish that people would leave outside interests such as this at home. It's hard enough to work with people every single day without having to feel uncomfortable over something like this.
Or... I could do what Roberta suggested! LOLOLOL...which I really do love!
Quote from: TerriL on January 03, 2008, 12:33:57 PM
I have a co-worker (in a seven person office) who is into this vitamin juice thing and he has been trying and trying to get me to watch some DVD on the "miracles" of this stuff and how, of course, I can make a fortune because this area is "wide open". I keep trying to be nice and telling him that we are very busy and that if things ever slow down I would look at the DVD. I think I'm going to follow Leslie's advice and say "We are not interested" next time. It's difficult to be somewhat confrontational with a co-worker but honestly, I don't think he is realizing that the reason I haven't got into it is because I am NOT interested.
I do wish that people would leave outside interests such as this at home. It's hard enough to work with people every single day without having to feel uncomfortable over something like this.
Or... I could do what Roberta suggested! LOLOLOL...which I really do love!
My boss has talked to this co-worker before and reminded her that her "home business" must be left at home!
Back when I worked at Ma Bell and one of her children, it was strictly against company policy to sell anything on company premises. Now who's gonna say no to Girl Scout cookies....
However, I finally got fed up with all the parents selling fund raising stuff for their kids (and of course not having kids, I never got reciprical purchases). When approached I would nicely ask if they "were aware that it was against company policy to sell anything?" Most took the hint and left me alone. If they persisted, I repeated it much more sternly.
Quote from: Mike on January 03, 2008, 05:02:27 PM
Back when I worked at Ma Bell and one of her children, it was strictly against company policy to sell anything on company premises. Now who's gonna say no to Girl Scout cookies....
However, I finally got fed up with all the parents selling fund raising stuff for their kids (and of course not having kids, I never got reciprical purchases). When approached I would nicely ask if they "were aware that it was against company policy to sell anything?" Most took the hint and left me alone. If they persisted, I repeated it much more sternly.
Good point, Mike, and this co-worker brings in ALL KINDS of fund-raising sh*t for her kid, niece and nephew, it never ends, and it does put people on the spot. I don't mind helping out the kids, especially the ones who come to my door selling chocolate, but when their parents do their selling for them in the office, I have a problem with that.
Well, I am only catching up two months late, but let me chime in, as a Girl Scout leader.
Girl Scout cookies are SO popular that people get mad when they find out they've missed the sale dates. So I have a button that says "Ask me about Girl Scout Cookies." If they want them, they can ask and if they don't, well, nothing is said by me or them. Works pretty well!
Karen :heart:
I love it, Karen! In sunny CA, our troops often order a bunch of boxes to sell outside the Credit Unions...that's where I usually get my supply. (Btw, they freeze pretty well, too - I have kept boxes frozen for up to a year.) I like your company's policy, Mike.
At my school, people are always putting things on the table in the lounge, when it comes to fundraisers, with a note saying who is selling and what the money's for - that way, if you are interested, you can sign up, or leave it alone if you are not. It works pretty well for us. I don't think anyone feels pressured that way, and we don't spend a lot of time naysaying.
And to think I thought I was the only one with that problem! My aggressive problem, however, is with a well-intentioned neighbor who calls me for EVERY "party" she wants to throw. Cosmetics, cooking items, canisters, you name it and I feel really trapped every time this happens. She's a great person, friendly, a good neighbor, but I always find ways to either dodge her or send her to someone else.
Additionally, I have a very close family member who keeps trying to get me to go to her religious group meetings. I do not want to, I am not that particular religion and its something she asks about all the time. Without offending her or her religious beliefs, any hints on how I can end the invitations without alienating her? I love her too much to be sharp or harsh and she invites me just about every week.
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I learned a long, long time ago that J-hovah's Witnesses are not ALLOWED by their church to be anything but pleasant and polite. If they push or hassle, you you ask them for the name of the person in charge of their ward, and you report them.
That having been said, I have never had anything less than a friendly conversation with them, and I learned what to say to ANYONE who offers me a chance to be saved. Works EVERY TIME:
"Thank you for thinking of me. I am very happy in my religion."
I don't care if you are a Wiccan, a Catholic, a Buddhist, or nothing at all - this stops the conversation every time. If some dolt doesn't get it the first time you say it, keep repeating it calmly and slowly, and smiling. Until they go away.
Karen :thumb: