Hi, everyone! I now have a 3-year restraining order. My mom, aunt, and other volunteers (I have at least a dozen) will help me pack his stuff up, after I do videos or digital photos of his belongings, and take reasonable care of them until his release - and I don't have to be here when he gets his stuff! An adult of my choosing can be there, to make sure he only takes what is his. (Edited now that most of you have read the original!) You are all wonderful - thank you so much for the rays so far, and I'd like to beg for continued ones as they hash out the annulment papers. Hugs and smooches from Julia... :apls: :hello2: :heart:
Thanks for the update. I'm so happy you can have the 3 year restraining order. At least that will help you feel protected for a while. I hope the annulment can go through quickly and with as little stress as possible. I'm proud of you for protecting yourself and your baby Brekke. You'll still be in my prayers every night. I hope this is the beginning of gettng your lives back and better than ever!
Good to hear you have lots of help. He was gonna sell your house?!!!!!! You mentioned the possibility of guns in the trunk of his car. Is this a real possibility? That is really scary. Do you own a gun and know how to use it? If I remember correctly, he's not from Bakersfield. Will he be going back to where he crawled out of when he gets out? Thanks for taking the time to keep us updated. Please stay safe, both of you. Speaking of which...where is Brekke staying?
Will keep you in my prayers and I am pretty sure Mz Twinkie is up at Rainbow Bridge watching down as a guardian angel!! AND she can BE TOUGH!!!
Be careful and you might want to check out your credit reports just to make sure nothing strange is on their either. Also see about getting a block on them so he cannot add anything to your record like additional charge cards by pretending he is you!!
Auntydoxzz
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Good grief where did this guy come from? Will you feel safe with the restraining orders? I too hope he moves far away. You may want more than just one adult there when he goes to get his stuff, eh? What a nightmare...thanks for the updates, I think of you every day and am still keeping you in my prayers. Hang in there and belly smooches to Brekke! :heart:
Julia,
Just been following your previous thread and this one the past few days. I'm sorry it's such a difficult time for you, but one thing shines through in what I am reading: You are a very strong lady. We'll be thinking of you. Take care.
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I will continue sending plenty of rays your way (especially another Anne McCaffrey fan). Keep the faith, and remember God will take care of you.
Darcel :pray:
Oh Julia, what a mess!!! Mega prayers for your and Brekke's continued safety. At least your plan is in motion (swift motion :xfinger:) and you are safe. Thank goodness you have all the help you do!! Reading all of this is kinda scary, I can't imagine what you are feeling....but it appears you are a very strong woman ( :hello2:) thank goodness.....I too wanna know what rock this guy climbed out of :thinik:....God Bless you and Brekke during this difficult time. ps: I wonder what is in his trunk of his car :thinik:
I would give him the crashed computer. Take everything you can, don't give him more than what you have to.
My girlfriend sent me a saying;
It is better to be alone
than to wish you were alone.
She is a widow and people can't figure out why she has not remarried, her answer---can't find the need to be.
Rays and prayers coming from Iowa. I cannot imagine how tought this has been on you. I'd look into having a police officer there when he collects his stuff; you have every right to be protected by the law. Hope the annulment comes through quickly.
No, he gets no computer after his internet "fun" BUT be sure that all the hardrive info is erased, etc. before you sell or donate. These are your possessions. You paid for them.
I am glad things are moving forward with this transistion part of your life. In a year all will be over and things back to "normal".
Of course, a restaraining order is not a magic shield that keeps anyone away from you. Give his photograph to your employer, and make sure that staff knows that he is a threat. If this is not technically legal, have a lawyer do it.
Also, if you attend any regualr church or social meetings, you may want to give the group leaders a heads' up on him. DID NOT RISK YOUR HEALTH OR SAFETY BECAUSE YOU MAY FEEL EMBARRESSED. Everyone would understand, and be willing to look out for you.
Send a letters to your bank, utility company, who ever, with a cc of the photgraph. Don't get technical, just make a note to them the following person has committed a crime against you and he may attempt more mischief. --again, make sure this is technically legal. Maybe the lawyer can do this for ya.
I am so glad you have a strong and loving support safety net. Please continue to keep us updated, although, to be honest, if I were you, I would not put anything more on this forum but PM folks.
Love you! :heart:
Pack his stuff up and rent a storage space. Let him pick up the stuff from there. A few extra dollars for you - but that way he won't have to come to your home. P*ss on him - he doesn't need a computer - or give him the broken one. Hang in there - and stay safe - that is the most important thing. hugs to you -
Julia, you have been in my thoughts every day since I've heard of your trouble. I feel so bad for you but I'm also inspired by you. You are one TOUGH cookie and your Brekke loves ya for it. Stay safe. Continue forward in getting YOUR life back.