My sister-in-law is whining at me about having to plan a wedding in 2 months with only $2000 as a budget. Then literally bragging about the wonderful honeymoon she and her fiance are going to have because her parents are giving them the money for the wedding so she can use her savings for the honeymoon.
Here's the reason i'm aggravated. My husband's parents downright refused to help us with anything for our wedding even though they knew my parents had nothing and I was spending all my money trying to feed my mom, dad, sister, and brother at the time. We repeadetedly asked for help. Finally the gave in and gave us a gift of $500 for a honeymoon.
But, since we had to pay for everything on our own as far as bills and wedding expenses went, we had nothing left for a honeymoon. :BangHead: His sister is sitting her bragging about her great and wonderful honeymoon, basically making me really upset. She knows he and I really hate that we never got to g on a honeymoon, so she's rubbing it in.
Am I just being petty or would this make you angry too? Maybe I'll feel better about it tomorrow, but its just hard to hear someone who doesn't even work and never has had a job, whining about how rough she has it when mommy and daddy are paying for her wedding. I guess I gotta try and look at the positive here. At least my husband and I know we worked HARD for everything we have. And, even though we never got a honeymoon at least we know our marriage is and will remain solid since we were friends long before we got married.
I'm sorry for venting, I just had to get this out before I explode at her, which wouldn't be fair. I can't talk to my husband about it because I don't want to upset him about it. Thanks for listening.
That's too bad your SIL has the petty streak. You can take solace that you have a solid relationship and marriage. When you do finally go only your honeymoon, you will appreciate it all the more because of the good memories that will have preceeded it.
One of my grandmothers would do anything for her youngest (#7) who was a ne'er-do-well. Of course she denied playing fav's, but the whole family knew the situation. Someone on Dear Abby once explained that she loved the child most who needed her most, which usually changed. Sometimes, they don't...
Oh my....I need time to reply back to this and I have to go to work now...I will respond later today....Okay, I am at work now....now to gather my thoughts...Hold your head high and don't let her bother you...don't bring yourself down to her level. I have a SIL who is bi-polar also; what she is doing is typical of that type of behavior. So dear, do what you have to do...smile...and I agree with Mike that when you finally do get to go on your Honeymoon, it will be even more special. Take pride in the fact that you and your husband have worked very hard for what you have and that you two have a solid relationship that will last a lifetime. That is what matters :wink: Your time will come and you will be rewarded for all you do :thumb:
Thanks Cheryl and Mike,
I do agree with both of you. After I vented, I felt a lot better. Also I realized the reason she was doing it was to make me angry. Thank God I didn't give her the satisfation of seeing me angry. Anyway, its not a big deal to me anymore and to be honest, I'm not sure why it was last night either. I had a ad day yesterday so maybe that contributed some. I honestly don't know.
It was all stupid and childish on her side and mine. So....I'm just going to let this one slide and not even let her have the satisfaction of me getting upset about it. You guys are right it doesn't matter. Thanks for your perspectives and honset thoughts on the matter. It is really appreciated! Anyway...the whole drama is over now and I feel pretty embarrassed for making such a big deal out of it. Oh Well. One of these days I'll learn. :rolleyes:
Thanks again. :wink:
Sorry I didn't see this until today. Wish I could have been there for you as you have been for me. I agree that with Cheryl and Mike. You and your hubby worked hard to be where you are and it sounds like she doesn't know the meaning of working hard or the satisfaction that comes with it. I am glad you are feeling better about it. I think every family has one member in it that acts that way. Must be God's way of testing our patience or something. And like you told me, you can vent here and I will be here when you need to vent. Seems like I will have plenty of down time to read the board when I am not at work since I have to take it easy!!
Mel