Neeki's mom, Sassy, has to be put to sleep. She has a bum leg and now the injury is affecting her shoulder. She is suffering. We have the equipment and property to bury her at home. A vet has been lined up to make Sassy's passing as peaceful as possible. At the moment the ground is still too frozen underneath the surface to dig a deep enough hole. We have a road builder putting a road into our land in the next week, and he has graciously agreed to dig the hole for us.
I am having a hard time "planning" this thing. I know it will be very hard actually doing it. Sassy is such a sweet, older mare. She is 25. I am having a hard time taking my own advice and practical approach. When others are facing such a thing, I remind them that its not about them, its about their pet. Its about taking their pets' pain away and putting it upon ourselves. How many of us have said "...if I could only take their pain away."? I know this is the right thing to do for Sassy, and I'm probably not giving her enough credit for understanding and knowing that I want to help her. I just feel so helpless, and sad, but I will be there for her.
I don't know that I have any good advice on how to prepare because how are you every ready for something like this. Patty...I am truly sorry for you having to make this decision. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers! :comfort:
Oh Patty, I am so sorry. You had told me that this was coming but I did not realize that her leg was affecting her shoulder now. It has got to be horrible for you and there is nothing anyone can say that you probably haven't already heard. Just know that you ARE doing the right thing and that we will all be here for you if you need us. Hugs to you.....
Even when you know it's coming, it's always hard to prepare for sending them on, and relieving any pain or suffering. Rays to you and Dan, and sending peaceful passage rays for Sassy (the tall dachsie, as Brekke thinks of horses). :pray: :heart:
Oh Patty - this is so sad. You had told us a while back that it was coming...... but still so hard to have to put your plans into action. You ARE doing the right thing for your sweet baby and all the plans you make will not take away the pain when you finally have to send her to the Bridge. She knows that you are only thinking of her and want her to live eternity pain free. I am so sorry - please know that we will all be standing next to you in spirit and wish that we could take away YOUR pain.
Hugs to you and Dan and Godspeed to Sassy as she makes her journey.....
We love you Patty !
When my son Daniel and I had to put Cooper, our border collie/lab mix doxie-wannabe to sleep, we stayed with him to the end talking to him and saying "good Cooper" over and over. I've heard it said that hearing is the last sense to shut down and I wanted the last sounds he heard to be our voices. He slipped away in seconds.
Putting down a horse is harder, because burying it is tough to do and tougher to witness. Once Sassy is gone, you don't need to stick around if it will be too hard on you.
Give her your best, and at the end you can smile and know you earned her love.
Karen
Oh my God, how sad. I have no advice. Only prayers. Hold her and tell her you love her...
Let us know when you decide so we can all send our special prayers .
Love you. :heart:
I always found the anticipation of knowing you had to help a furkid to the Bridge was far worse than the actual act. Once everything is there and set up, you know you are making the right decision. Sometimes it takes time to come to terms with it, but when you are making the decision from both the head and the heart, reconciliation does come.
It's so hard for us humans when our pets....any and all of them....are ready to take that last step. May God grant you strength and peace.
Sandi
It is both the price we pay for their company and love and the final gift we can give yet it tears our hearts. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Not sure you can prepare for it we love our animals so much it is always very hard to deal with their passing at least we have that option for them no more pain, no more suffering it is the greatest gift you can give them.None of my animals have passed on without my helping them I'm trying to deal with Gizmo now so I'm in the same boat with you I personally have always stayed with them petting them & talking to them.Their are some that can not do that but that is ok too, the problem with animals is they cannot tell us how much they hurt or how they feel we have to be strong for them we have to know our animal they will let you know when it is time you will know. Will be thinking of you we are here for you.
Papbouv
I'm so sorry to hear about his. Rays and prayers on the way to you, and Gospeed to Sassy.
Patty, I am so sorry to hear this news. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Godspeed to Sassy...she knows you love her and are doing what is best.
Sooo sorry to hear this Patty.... You and Dan will be in our thoughts and prayers.... I have no advice either, you can never be ready for this, even with planning...... We've planned, and it wasn't any easier than when we didn't.... I am short on advice, but big on sending you and Dan lots of love and prayers.... We will be thinking about you... :comfort: Just know that Sassy loved you and she does understand.... Hugs & Prayers..... :pray:
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