Response to Sundays post "How do you".....

[Stacey]

For those of you who read and replied to my topic from Sunday, I just want to thank you all for your honesty and assure everyone that our two babies are not going unloved.  I am sorry if I misled to that, but that was not it at all.  I totally understand that Doxies are hunters and it was most likely bound to happen.  It was just a complete shock to my family since we have had both bird and dog in our house for 2 years and it never happened.  We are getting through this as a family (including the dogs) and are trying to get over the shock.  My daughter does not blame the dogs, nor do I.  It is hard though not to look at them differently and to not picture our bird everytime they play with a toy.  That is the part I am finding the hardest and I believe that will take time to get over.  My daughter does not know the extent of the situation and I will never tell her or she too will be going through the thoughts I am.  She just knows that the dogs got to the bird.  I do not want her going through the pain I am wondering if the bird suffered (she is too young to handle that) nor do I want her to feel any guilt (as she already wishes she were a witch and can turn back time to tell her dad to be sure her door was shut that day).  She crys every now and then when she thinks of him and was finally been able to sleep in her room for the first time last night.  We have buried Trust under our apple tree and are planning to plant an annual flower by him (if anyone knows of any good ones please let me know as my thumb is black and not green).
Please, no one worry about my two dogs.  They are the most loved dogs ever.  If anyone has read any of my other posts you will understand that I treat my dogs better than I treat myself most of the time.  And they are getting lots of love.  Unfortunately my husband is still having a hard time with this and has not found the forgiveness yet (he is working with his own demons as he was the one that was home and did not shut the door when he left) but he is not treating them badly, he just isn't paying any attention to them at all (spending most of his time in our basement building stuff).  I am sure that with some time he will come around. 
Again thank you all for your honesty (it really did help)......

[Julie]

Hang in there Stacey.  Remember we are all here for you!!!!

Julie

[PattyInAK]

Stacey, I guess your husband is fighting with his guilt, but he will work thru it, I'm sure.  He not only has to forgive the dogs, he has to forgive himself.  It does no one any good to go thru all the "if onlys."  When something like this happens, we all want someone to blame and we usually blame ourselves.  Its not always very productive.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family. 

[Sandishooligans]

Whew!  I'm glad things seem better now.  Hopefully, as time goes on, more progress will happen between all concerned.  I also want to thank you for taking those who wrote in, their words, as they were intended, only to help.  We were concerned and I'm pleased that you clarified matters.  Here's hoping for happier days for you, your hooman family and the doglets.

Sandi

[Dottiesdoxies]

Stacy, Here is hoping you guys work it out!  Our thoughts and best wishes to you and your family.  I know you love the puppers, they didn't mean it, and they love you too!    Love heals anything!  Good luck!