Me Too! Thank You Re: Dolly

[Sandishooligans]

It's interesting how we grieve differently.  Me the stoic one and Mark, the weepy one.....he didn't leave that exam room after she was gone for 15 minutes.  He was inconsolable.   I rather wish I wasn't so much the way I am.  I WANTED to cry but haven't.....yet.  What I DO do is keep everything inside and then I pay for it.  My immune system took a dump and now I have the biggest blasted cold imaginable.  I've missed 2 days of work and just now have the strength to get onboard here and write a bit.

Maddie seems to be doing pretty well, although those first few days, she seemed to look at us with a quizzical....something's different.....look.  She's loving having me home these last two days but I think she'll do fine alone also.  I have kicked around the idea of taking her to work, but she would have to learn to get along with Truman the Golden Retreeeever.  Truman LOVES to play and frolic.  Miss Madders, I'm sure, would want none of it.  I might bring her over to meet the Froot Loop on a Saturday when Robert is in the shop and we can supervise.  One thing is, she is getting LOTS of walkies....and lovin' it...AND we are taking her everywhere with us that we can.  On Sunday after Dolly, we took her to Santa Barbara to visit Mark's parents.  She was a real little lady.  We took her crate and used it when we went out to eat and she was as happy as a clam.  It will be interesting when we take her to my dad's house with my brother's rambunctious Blue Heeler.  I'll have to keep an eye on her there because of the various fowl running around.  She's had chicken encounters there before that got her grounded from going to Grandpa's.....even if it was really the dumb chicken's fault.

Thank you for your many kind words and thoughts.  We treasure all of you.

Sandi, Mark and the Roo. 

[Barb]

Sandi - thinking of you and I was wondering how Maddie was doing.  Yes, it is interesting how we grieve - but we all do it the way that is best for us.  We are here for you when you need us - you know that, right?  All 3 of you can just take a day at a time......I know Dolly-Angel is watching over you......Hugs to you -   Soft belly rubs to the Roo !

[Rich]

We've been thinking about you and the Roo. We all have our own way of coping I guess, but our bodies do things on their own. I was devastated when Stormy was diagnosed with Cancer but I soldiered on, then my immune system went on hold and I was sick for a month. Its been a rough couple of months for the families on the board. Love 'em while you can, time is shorter than we all think.

[Roberta]

Glad to hear from you all. Yes when Angus and Ingrid went I was a mess it was so sudden, with Emma I was Ok as I think she was ready to go, but NIck was like Mark, and I'm not knocking it, grieving is hard. We like you had another to consider that you cannot tell verbally their partner has gone.
Love and hugs Roberta

[doxielady5569128]

Its too bad that you are feeling ill!  But, I'm very glad to hear youall are coping alright.  I do the same thing with greiving.  When my grandpa passed it took a while before I could cry.  I am glad Maddie is doing okay also.   

[PattyInAK]

Dan is usually the stoic one, but with Misty he was a total mess.  Its been almost two months and Dan still gets weepy when we talk about her.  I don't mean "still" like he should be over it by now, but its just not like him.  Me....I cry.  A lot!  I still cry over Domingo, and of course Misty Girl.  I let it out, I can't help it, sometimes I wish I could control the tears, but they just flow.  I guess that keeps me from getting sick. 

Sandi, thanks for letting us know how you all are doing, I think about you a lot and about the loss of Dolly, Misty and Ivan recently.   Sounds like the Roo is coping pretty well, its good you are taking her everywhere you can.  I hope she behaves at grandpa's house.

Go take a hot bath and steam that cold out of you!  Take care, my dear friend.

[Dee Dee and Hallie]

I'm sorry you are sick on top of all this Sandi. No wonder though with all you are going through. Heartbreaking to hear how Mark reacted. I know what you mean, we do all handle grief in our own way, anyway we do it is awfully tough. I wish I could be a little more like you, I fall completely apart...for months. When I lost Jessie, I ended up in the hospital for 3.5 months, I didn't think I'd ever make it without her. It will be even worse with Hallie, I can't fathom that. They do become our family, every bit as much as if they were human (sometimes more!). I always say they bring us lifes greatest joy and greatest sorrow. We will always remember our Dolly. I'm glad you posted, I am praying every day will be a little kinder to you and Mark. Give Maddie a hug for us.

[Delia and girls]

So glad to hear from you, Sandi. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, so you do it your way, which works for you. And Mark will do it his way, which works for him. It's good that you're all doing as well as can be expected. I've been thinking and praying for you guys. After you get over your cold, enjoy the heck out of Maddie. It's cool that it might be an option for you to take her to work. I hope that works out. She'll be so happy being with you all day!